What Is Effective Communication?
 Jack and max are walking from religious  service. Jack wonders whether it would be all right to smoke while  praying. Max replies: "Why don't you ask the priest?"
 So jack goes up to the priest and asks, "Priest, may I smoke while I pray?"
 But the priest says: "No, my son, you may not. That’s utter disrespect to our religion." 
 Jack goes back to his friend and tells him  what the good priest told him. Max says: "I’m not surprised. You asked  the wrong question. Let me try" and so max goes up to the priest and  asks, "Priest, may I pray while I smoke?"
 To which the priest eagerly replies, "By all means, my son. By all means"
 Moral: The reply you get depends on the question you ask!!!